My future Olympian

Michael Phelps has just retired from his swimming career, with 22 Olympic medals, 18 of which are gold. And Serena Williams, who thought would not be able to play again because of her injuries, completed her Golden Slamby winning against another tennis champ Maria Sharapova. Such is the admiration that I have for these players, along with other Olympic participants. These athletes are the epitome of greatness in their respective fields. For it takes more than just skills to participate in the Olympics. It also requires a great amount of discipline, handwork, and big dreams.

When I gave birth to Kaila, I told myself that I wanted her to be an athlete, a swimmer or a tennis player perhaps. Although I also dream for her to become a doctor or a lawyer. Parents always have big dreams for their kids. My Dad always wanted me to become a lawyer and I really wish to grant what he wants. Such is the joy that parents feel when their dreams come true. (I remember last week, when we had a moot court exhibition in preparation for the IHL competition this September. One of the parents of the mooters attended the exhibition to watch her daughter argue. I could imagine how proud he was to witness her daughter stood up before the mock up court room and delivered her speech. I was actually a little envious, for I haven’t seen my parents that proud since I graduated from college. It has been a long time.)

The point is, parents are always proud of their kids, no matter how small their achievement is. I have always been so proud of Kaila’s achievements. In fact, when she graduated from nursery, I was on the verge of tears while watching her sing their graduation song with the rest of the graduates. Such an emotional mom, but these milestones are big things to parents.

So, back to my dream. I know Kaila will be great someday. With her Dad and I guiding her, and with God’s blessings, I know she will make a name for herself. She may not be an athlete or may not be the one I want her to be, but I know, in her own little way, she will make us proud. As to my dream, I still wish her to be an Olympian, not just an Olympian, but an Olympic gold medalist. 🙂

Here’s my princess who will be greater than Michael Phelps in the future:

Still afraid of the water.

Her few moments in the water at an early age.

Showing how courageous she is while in the water.

 

See, she’s trying to swim.

Fever fever go away

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(Photo from here)

I get worried every time Kaila gets sick. Every parent does. Yesterday, before I went to school, her Dad and I found out that she had a fever… for no reason at all, meaning no colds and minor cough only. It’s one of the hardest things about being a parent. Your child getting sick and you don’t know what to do. I often wish that we have a doctor in the family so every time this happens, I won’t have to worry a lot. (I am a worrier, you know. Melvin’s the opposite, he seems not to worry at all.)

Good thing there’s the Internet, plus my parent friends whom I can ask about these things. Good thing as well that Kaila’s fever’s below 38.5 degrees Celsius, which means it’s just a slight one. But it made me worry still for I had to go to class, my mom’s not home (knowing my mom’s just a few houses away makes everything bearable, you know), and Kaila would be left with her yaya. Melvin’s not so hands-on when it comes to these things but he’s still her Dad and I know he won’t let anything happen to her. But I was really worried.

Thank God for simple home remedies, courtesy of the Internet and pharmacist friend. The friend told me that she usually gives her son plenty of fluids, puts KoolFever in his forehead, and rubs him wet towel to lower the fever. Kaila normally does not want to take medicines when she’s sick, which makes everything more difficult. So I took her advice and instructed her ate to do those things. Internet sources say as long as the fever does not get higher than 102 degrees Fahrenheit, parents need not worry. Just let the fever takes its course. It’s just a way of the body to fight against infection. But then again, parents always worry. Especially when fever occurs in countries like ours, where there’s a danger of dengue fever and all that.

When I arrived home after school, her fever was a little bit higher so I had to coerce her to take her medicine. I bought a strawberry-flavored paracetamol, for she does not like the taste of the orange-flavored medicine. Then I bought her ice cream too. Another advice that I got from the Internet is that it is alright to give cold water, popsicles, or anything cold to the feverish child for it will help her body cool down. So, with some coercion and a cup of ice cream, getting her to drink her medicine was a success. I had to stay up all night though to monitor her temperature and to frequently cover her body with a light blanket to avoid chills. The air conditioning was on so I had to check her every time, whether she feels cold, or if she’s still covered with blanket. I also learned from the Internet that it is not advisable to cover the child with thick clothes when she has a fever. Just dress her in light clothing unless she experiences chills. In fact, giving a bath with lukewarm water is also recommended. When we were growing up as kids, my grandmother would not let us take a bath when we were sick. My mom would let us drink paracetamol and after that, covered us with thick blanket so we would sweat and our body temperature would go down. Doctors these days actually advice otherwise. Accordingly, the sweat glands will be able to release more moisture when the body is exposed. Moreover, sweating will not help break the fever. So much to learn, right?

This morning, Kaila woke up without a fever at all. Thank God. Hope she continues to get better. Siguro e lagnat laki lang ‘to, sabi nga ng matatanda. And I wish her pedia-pulmo would come back sooner. Dra. Vina had a one-month vacation abroad at ang tagal nya bumalik.

Nappy training no more

A few months ago, I wrote about training Kaila to wake up at night to pee on the toilet instead of peeing in her diaper. Surprisingly, she did not need training. It just happened. Two nights ago, I had her pee in the CR before she went to sleep. I had to put on her diaper, worried that she might pee on the bed for she asked for a bottle of milk before sleeping. When she woke up the next morning, her diaper was dry. And so last night, we had the same routine, except no milk and no diaper. Upon waking up this morning, the bed was dry (thanks God). So no need for me to wake up in the middle of the night to have her pee in the toilet. Guess other moms are right, you don’t need to force children. It comes naturally when they’re ready.

Dealing with Tantrums

I always pray that Kaila grows up to be a good and obedient girl. The first time she showed signs of defiance, I used all the powers of the universe to be patient with her and to deal with her in the most democratic way that I could. But tantrums do happen, it cannot be prevented, and the most that parents can do is learn how to deal with their kids when they throw a tantrum.

Tantrums are emotional outbursts, oftentimes sudden, and typically characterized by stubbornness, screaming, defiance, or any form of resistance. They are common in kids between ages 1 – 3. Kids these age have very limited language so they cannot readily and adequately express their feelings. When they get frustrated over something, they are not yet able to control their emotions. So they throw a tantrum.

For parents like me, tantrum episodes are frustrating and embarrassing. They are like a test to your patience. They challenge your abilities as parents as to how much can you control your child. I have tried many ways on how to deal with Kaila’s tantrums. There are moments when I just had to spank her because there was nothing I could do. I regretted those moments because I did not want to do that in the first place. As a parent, as a mom, I should be more in control of my feelings. I should know better, right.

How do I deal with Kaila’s tantrums? Here are the strategies that I do.

  • I carry her inside the room. Many say you should place the child where he or she could be safe and then leave the child until he or she calms down. I do not leave her, for I read somewhere that this might come to a child as abandonment or something to that effect. I just sit quietly in one corner and wait until she calms down. 
  • After she calms down, I hug her and tell her that everything is okay. I talk to her and explain her what happened. I discuss about her behavior and tell her that I am not angry with her but with what she did.
  • In talking to Kaila, I tell describe what she did and then tell her that it is not the right way to express her feelings. I tell her that instead of shouting or crying, she should tell me or her Dad that she does not like what was being told her, or that she is angry, or that she wants to do something else.
  • According to some parents, it is not enough that you tell the child what to do. You also have to ask her what you just said in order for you to know that your child understood what you said.
  • I know when Kaila is about to throw a tantrum. When I see signs of it, I divert her attention to other things, like I invite her to come with me to read her book, or to ask her to help me to carry my bag.

When episodes like these happen, it is important for parents to keep their cool. I am guilty of this, especially when I am very occupied and then I suddenly hear her cry because her Dad does not want to give her the TV’s remote control or that her yaya refuses to play with her. What I do is I let a few minutes pass first, then approach her calmly, and then carry her to the room.

Most children grow out of the need for tantrums when they can express their feelings more and when finally understand that everything they do have consequences. However, I also know that how I deal with Kaila and her tantrums is very important so I make it a point that I deal with her in the most calm and democratic way that I can.