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why am i not excited about valentine’s day?

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Are You Too Busy for Your Marriage?

Being busy is not an excuse, especially when it is your husband who is requesting a little bit of your time. This is one excuse that I make it a point not to tell my husband, although sometimes, I am really busy with a lot of things that I tell him, “Wait a while, I’ll just finish what I am doing.” I know life is busy but it should not prevent us from spending a little time with our spouse.
Here are some ways that you and I can do to make sure that we always have time for our spouses. You can check out more marriage tips here.
1. Make time. My favorite teacher in high school used to tell us, if you do not have time, learn how to manufacture time. I had a hard time comprehending what he said but as I get older, I learned how to do that. Manufacturing time simply means making time for the more important things in your life, and getting rid of those things that do not add value to it. I have a list of things to do everyday and I make sure to include time for my hubby in that list, be it having breakfast together (I wake up at 3 am and already very hungry at 5 am; hubby wakes up around 8 am) or have at least 30 minutes conversation before going to sleep.
2. Prioritize. I have to submit 2500-word articles everyday, study my lessons, and take care of Kaila. But whenever Melvin asks for my time, I try to give it; or we compromise, like I tell him that I will have to finish my article first and then spend time with him.
3. Say “I love you.” Hug. Kiss. I am the type of person who does not respond to those words when I do not feel like it. Know what I mean? When I am angry and he said those words, of course, why would I reply? Sometimes, I forget to say those words in person but every time we send text messages to each other, we do not forget to include those words in the message. Sometimes, we are both guilty of not kissing or hugging especially when we had a bad day. But we both make it a point to show each other some affection whenever we can, be it as simple as holding our hands, or brushing away the hair from his face, or planting a kiss on the forehead. It goes a long way.
How about you? What are the things that you do to keep your love alive?
By wishful thinker Posted in marriage

Someday, I’ll Travel the World

Before college, the farthest place that I’ve been to was, o well, Tagaytay. It was fourth year high school and we decided to go somewhere far for some bonding time with my classmates. We stayed in the rest house of my classmate’s uncle (currently the country’s VP), dropped by the market, and then spent the whole day inside the house. (Oh, that was the same house used in one of the most popular movies of Rico Yan and Claudine Barretto, I think that was their last movie together).

The point is, I haven’t been somewhere far before that. Maybe because my Dad has always been away and that we had no vehicle then except a tricycle and that my Mom is not the adventurous/outgoing type of person. We were confined mostly inside the house. I did go out with friends but we only went as far as Caedo (a mini-mall and the only mall in our place way back 1997), which is like 30 minutes away from our place.

Up to know, almost 10 years after, I have not visited many places. I spent almost nine years in the Greater Manila Area but I was not able to go to Divisoria, where almost all people go to during the holiday season to find the cheapest gifts for their loved ones for Christmas. I was in Quezon City for four years but I only knew the routes going to SM North, to Delta (where a college friend used to live), to City Hall, to GMA-7 and ABS-CBN. I have only been to Araneta Coliseum twice (to watch cheerdance competition during my first year; and on a date with my then-bf-now-husband Melvin). I lived in Makati for two years  but most of my time were spent inside the beautiful malls of Makati. When I transferred to Manila, I spend most of my time inside the bank, in the condo, in Robinson’s Ermita, in Makati with my million-dollar business venture then.

It must be a boring life, you may be thinking. I guess it is. I do not go out. I prefer to be alone instead of socializing with friends. I prefer to watch TV, read a book, or sleep instead of partying. Sometimes, I regret those moments when I should be with friends, deepen my relationship with them, or simply spend time with them. But most of what I regret is that I didn’t take time to go out and visit wonderful places.

Every time I see photos of my friends going to different places in and out of the country, how I wish I can do that too. I want to spend my time with Melvin and Kaila away from the city like these two. I want to be alone for at least a month or two and experience the world.

What is preventing me from doing this? Well, budget is number one. If you are an avid reader or if you are my stalker, you know that life is not as easy as it used to be. If budget is not an issue, it is because I do not have constant companion to travel. Well, my family does not travel a lot. My husband is not the type who wants to step out of his comfort zone. My friends, o well, we are all busy with our own lives that our schedule will not fit in.

How about traveling by myself? I’m planning for it. Maybe a 12-day European tour in two or three years. Or maybe I’ll seek a study grant in the US after I finish law school and pass the bar. Or I’ll wait for Kaila to grow up and we’ll travel together anywhere in the world. Then we’ll bring Melvin with us, by then he won’t have an excuse. 😉

For now, well, I’m always traveling, that is from my house to school and back.